Anger is the primary fundamental boundary emotion. It tends and keeps our boundaries in good shape when we truly allow our anger and its wisdom. Anger is how we pop out dents in our boundaries and strengthen weak spots. once the anger is expressed the boundaries go back to their natural flexible semipermeable state. We did not evolve anger over millions of years for it to be primarily a nuisance or purely a cover for other emotions. Only people who are out of touch with their anger misunderstand it and use it inappropriately.
Anger is the most misunderstood emotions . Anger is a vital primary emotion that we cannot live without. Of course there is hurt always underneath anger which must also be addressed.
Both the anger and the hurt must be expressed. So many people try to bypass the anger and try to go directly to other emotions. This process is highly toxic and leads to all sorts of anti-life beliefs.
Anger and love flow through the same pipeline, if the pipeline is clogged with anger then the love cannot flow either. Once the anger is expressed the love can flow.
To get to the past anger that fuels the present anger you must first legitimize and express the current anger. One must realize that from 1% to 99% of current anger is fueled by past anger and hurts.
Most people don’t realize that, in its healthy form, anger a contactful caring and loving emotions.
The fear of anger is a much larger problem in our society than anger. Anger sometimes requires a safe container which in this anger phobic society is hard to find.